At the End of the Day

Happy Fathers Day to all the Real Dads out there.

My Dad died years ago and while it’s no longer true that there isn’t a day… (time heals)… . It is true that there isn’t a momentous day that passes that I don’t miss him. Weddings, anniversaries, holidays, Christmases, Thanksgivings. And now the soon to be birth of his first GreatGrandChild.

My Dad was one of the first 1000 men to have open heart surgery at the Cleveland Clinic. I was 11. It was 1970. As he aged– he was born in ’29– he had more surgeries with more bits and pieces of his legs replacing parts of his artioe-vascular-system.

Mom was disposed to be a VERBOTIN fat-bad-cholosterol-nazi. No one can argue that she didn’t extend his life by at least 20 years.

The only time I heard my dad cry was when he realized– after his first surgery– that that bitch working in the office at the store he managed had taken advantage of his situation and had stolen money from the books, on his watch.

May she burn in hell.

My dad swore in front of me and my brother twice. Once, when the puppies just wouldn’t shut the hell up on a Sunday morning (and now I imagine were are real impediment to… well.. you know… the things Moms & Dads do on Sunday morning) and the other time when I wouldn’t shut the hell up about being put upon as a young teenager to do & go where I was told to do and go.

Sure sure. As we all got older Dad would throw in a “hell” or “damn” for effect. But it was always with a wink & a nod. Never words one would routinely say in polite conversation.

Happy Father’s Day to all of the Real Dads out there. Soldier on.

And a big high five to having awesome tie-dye Father’s Day gifts to Mr. Big Food from Daughter C.


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  1. “A late father’s day shout out to my stepdad, John Bickle whose fb account is defunct but nevertheless undeleted. Sometimes in life the people who are supposed to be there for you just aren’t, sometimes they let other people get in the way. Not John! He has always been there supporting and encouraging me along the way. It’s obvious he makes room for other people in his life. I may be a dualist who ridicules reduction (ruthless or not) but when it all comes down to it, John is one great dad!”

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